We all have a part to play

This whole week, I have come across various comments, countless broadcasts and newspaper opinions about how DaGrin's death is the government's fault. I have tried not to comment because I find his death painful and wouldn't want to offend myself or his memory.
But I have to say, his death has only brought on new excuses by the Nigerian people on how 'The system made me do it'. For all of our existence, we all blame the government for all of our woes, I didn't pass WAEC, the government did not give me light, I failed in university because I cheated, the government did not help me pass. I agree that the government should provide various things for its people and Nigeria's government does fall short but then who are the govt?? They did not drop from heaven or rise from hell(I think ppl would like to believe they came from hell), they are members of the Nigerian society and they have being through the system too. So did the system make them or do they make the system...a bit complicated?I agree. We all go around not taking blame for our actions and its easy to blame a stupid system which we all contribute too. I know its easier said than done but how many of you would admit that paying bribes and knowing someone makes your life that tad bit easier and for those of us who live in structured societies, we wish sometimes we could hasten long processes like seeing a GP on the NHS.
My point is as a group of people, we all need to start accepting blame for what has become of our country. It is not the government who made you dig holes in the road so you can attack poor travellers, it is not the government that caused you to drive under a trailer drunk, it is not the government that caused the trailer to park stationary in the first place(tankers have motor parks), it is not the government that made you climb poles and steal bulbs from the street lights, it is not the government that caused you in the little village in port-harcourt not to have tarred roads, it is not the government in some villages that rejects technology thereby rejecting electricity, the government did not tell you to cheat on those final exams thereby ending up rusticated and unemployed, it is not the government that pushed you to travel in the tyres of an aeroplane, it is not the government that made you go on a one way road and get caught...the list is endless...it is all YOU, YOU did these things...take responsibility...

I don't want to come across as saying that everything is right with the Nigerian government because that is far from the truth but I dare say that everything is wrong with the Nigerian himself because he will not take responsibility for his actions...Bad governance or not, we contribute to the state of our society and until we stop, our country will continue to degenerate.

Goodluck for President?

Firstly I must say, you need to watch his interview if you haven't seen it and read his acceptance speech if you haven't done so either. I love this man.Like I really do. He is the beginning of a true breed of politicians to come into power in Nigeria. Unfazed, yet he doesn't seem unconcerned. Nigeria is his country,that is all. He is not a one tribe leader, he is 'the people's man'. The beautiful ones will be born in his time...Amen.

Ok moving on, many people feel that politics and participation in politics is a right. I disagree(Hannah Arendt,I'm sorry, gotta leave you on this one).. I believe that everyone should have minimal involvement i.e. vote etc but truth be told,its discussion is not for every John and Joseph. Nigerian and African politics is the way it is because we think that we all know,when the truth is we don't. We don't know what its like to rule or control a country with 250 ethnic groups and 520 languages(with only 9 extinct). If you can't control a class of 50 students, how much more a country with such diversity? I don't want to make excuses for the state of our nations but I don't want to excuse all the nonsense being said by people who do not know either. Those who know,know...let them progress as for those who don't know,please vote, voice your concerns but don't talk like you can do it better because you can't unless you're willing to learn...

There I have said it, POLITICS IS NOT FOR EVERYONE.find your own calling in life!

On bright note, GOODLUCK FOR PRESIDENT 2011!cast your vote.

Specifications: The ass or boob man

So this is a quick post! Hopefully it won't turn into another rant! Anyway I stumbled on a comment about how if a man tells you he is an ass or boobs man, he is shallow...I disagree...

Everyone has their specifications in life about certain things...and in the boy-girl relationship this applies to... Essentially I don't think you should take offence to knowing that you're not a certain person's specification(its easier said than done,but it's still done!!)

I have come to realize that looks or appearance in a way matter to some men more than others...I know a boy who only likes pretty girls(yeah I know its relative but their some girls that are pretty and you can't deny it unless you want to hate!!) and their mannerisms, character etc don't bother him much...so he'll go out with a dumb bimbo or a high-handed bitch as long as she's pretty...IS he shallow, maybe(that's me hating) but is he allowed to have specifications, HELL YES!!

All I am trying to say is that we all have specifications be it physical or internal(i.e. behavioural characteristics), its unfair to judge people just because their's lie in the physical most times!

Having said that, I will put some of my specifications down and I like to think I have a good mix...

1.Must be taller than me and I am not 5'2 or 5'5!!

2.Skinny but not thin or lanky, a built kinda slim...good body not necessarily gymed up and muscular(I find that unappealing-Tyson Beckford,eew)

3.Good features,eyes, cheeks,lips,eyebrows nails, feet,hands...I hate hate hate,ugly features...I'm not attracted to pretty boys unless they have the rest of my specifications...

4.Has an air of confidence bordering on arrogance

5. Witty and charming

6.Smells good..I once followed a boy round a club at 14 because I loved his perfume,he never became my friend though...DAMNIT!!

7.Wears beautiful shoes(OMG, when I was 13, I used to stare at boys shoes before I spoke to them,if it was a fail to me, that conversation was not starting...I thank God I have grown out of it and now I just won't talk to you often or anything like that,we remain acquaintances)

8. Looks good in shirts and tee-shirts- some people only look good in one or the other not both, I have to have both...*shrugs*

9.Has a nice bum, I hate ugly bums...*shrugs again*

10.Ambitious but not to the point of killing people or causing pain to people because he wants something...I hate such people...I think one should have a balance between money making and humanity...

Ok so this is all I could think of, I can see some people thinking, no God fearing, well I think if you love humanity, you will be God-fearing...I hate when people describe their potential spouses as he/she is a God-fearing,God-loving wo(man), wevs, its the Nigerian in us that makes us think we have to say that, sometimes those people don't even know God(This was a sidebar that was unnecessary in the context of this post,but it popped into my head as I was typing and so I felt the need to just put it out there...I may never blog about the issue so hey ho!!!)

Happy April,its my favourite month of the year!I'm a spring/easter baby!