We all have a part to play

This whole week, I have come across various comments, countless broadcasts and newspaper opinions about how DaGrin's death is the government's fault. I have tried not to comment because I find his death painful and wouldn't want to offend myself or his memory.
But I have to say, his death has only brought on new excuses by the Nigerian people on how 'The system made me do it'. For all of our existence, we all blame the government for all of our woes, I didn't pass WAEC, the government did not give me light, I failed in university because I cheated, the government did not help me pass. I agree that the government should provide various things for its people and Nigeria's government does fall short but then who are the govt?? They did not drop from heaven or rise from hell(I think ppl would like to believe they came from hell), they are members of the Nigerian society and they have being through the system too. So did the system make them or do they make the system...a bit complicated?I agree. We all go around not taking blame for our actions and its easy to blame a stupid system which we all contribute too. I know its easier said than done but how many of you would admit that paying bribes and knowing someone makes your life that tad bit easier and for those of us who live in structured societies, we wish sometimes we could hasten long processes like seeing a GP on the NHS.
My point is as a group of people, we all need to start accepting blame for what has become of our country. It is not the government who made you dig holes in the road so you can attack poor travellers, it is not the government that caused you to drive under a trailer drunk, it is not the government that caused the trailer to park stationary in the first place(tankers have motor parks), it is not the government that made you climb poles and steal bulbs from the street lights, it is not the government that caused you in the little village in port-harcourt not to have tarred roads, it is not the government in some villages that rejects technology thereby rejecting electricity, the government did not tell you to cheat on those final exams thereby ending up rusticated and unemployed, it is not the government that pushed you to travel in the tyres of an aeroplane, it is not the government that made you go on a one way road and get caught...the list is endless...it is all YOU, YOU did these things...take responsibility...

I don't want to come across as saying that everything is right with the Nigerian government because that is far from the truth but I dare say that everything is wrong with the Nigerian himself because he will not take responsibility for his actions...Bad governance or not, we contribute to the state of our society and until we stop, our country will continue to degenerate.

Goodluck for President?

Firstly I must say, you need to watch his interview if you haven't seen it and read his acceptance speech if you haven't done so either. I love this man.Like I really do. He is the beginning of a true breed of politicians to come into power in Nigeria. Unfazed, yet he doesn't seem unconcerned. Nigeria is his country,that is all. He is not a one tribe leader, he is 'the people's man'. The beautiful ones will be born in his time...Amen.

Ok moving on, many people feel that politics and participation in politics is a right. I disagree(Hannah Arendt,I'm sorry, gotta leave you on this one).. I believe that everyone should have minimal involvement i.e. vote etc but truth be told,its discussion is not for every John and Joseph. Nigerian and African politics is the way it is because we think that we all know,when the truth is we don't. We don't know what its like to rule or control a country with 250 ethnic groups and 520 languages(with only 9 extinct). If you can't control a class of 50 students, how much more a country with such diversity? I don't want to make excuses for the state of our nations but I don't want to excuse all the nonsense being said by people who do not know either. Those who know,know...let them progress as for those who don't know,please vote, voice your concerns but don't talk like you can do it better because you can't unless you're willing to learn...

There I have said it, POLITICS IS NOT FOR EVERYONE.find your own calling in life!

On bright note, GOODLUCK FOR PRESIDENT 2011!cast your vote.

Specifications: The ass or boob man

So this is a quick post! Hopefully it won't turn into another rant! Anyway I stumbled on a comment about how if a man tells you he is an ass or boobs man, he is shallow...I disagree...

Everyone has their specifications in life about certain things...and in the boy-girl relationship this applies to... Essentially I don't think you should take offence to knowing that you're not a certain person's specification(its easier said than done,but it's still done!!)

I have come to realize that looks or appearance in a way matter to some men more than others...I know a boy who only likes pretty girls(yeah I know its relative but their some girls that are pretty and you can't deny it unless you want to hate!!) and their mannerisms, character etc don't bother him much...so he'll go out with a dumb bimbo or a high-handed bitch as long as she's pretty...IS he shallow, maybe(that's me hating) but is he allowed to have specifications, HELL YES!!

All I am trying to say is that we all have specifications be it physical or internal(i.e. behavioural characteristics), its unfair to judge people just because their's lie in the physical most times!

Having said that, I will put some of my specifications down and I like to think I have a good mix...

1.Must be taller than me and I am not 5'2 or 5'5!!

2.Skinny but not thin or lanky, a built kinda slim...good body not necessarily gymed up and muscular(I find that unappealing-Tyson Beckford,eew)

3.Good features,eyes, cheeks,lips,eyebrows nails, feet,hands...I hate hate hate,ugly features...I'm not attracted to pretty boys unless they have the rest of my specifications...

4.Has an air of confidence bordering on arrogance

5. Witty and charming

6.Smells good..I once followed a boy round a club at 14 because I loved his perfume,he never became my friend though...DAMNIT!!

7.Wears beautiful shoes(OMG, when I was 13, I used to stare at boys shoes before I spoke to them,if it was a fail to me, that conversation was not starting...I thank God I have grown out of it and now I just won't talk to you often or anything like that,we remain acquaintances)

8. Looks good in shirts and tee-shirts- some people only look good in one or the other not both, I have to have both...*shrugs*

9.Has a nice bum, I hate ugly bums...*shrugs again*

10.Ambitious but not to the point of killing people or causing pain to people because he wants something...I hate such people...I think one should have a balance between money making and humanity...

Ok so this is all I could think of, I can see some people thinking, no God fearing, well I think if you love humanity, you will be God-fearing...I hate when people describe their potential spouses as he/she is a God-fearing,God-loving wo(man), wevs, its the Nigerian in us that makes us think we have to say that, sometimes those people don't even know God(This was a sidebar that was unnecessary in the context of this post,but it popped into my head as I was typing and so I felt the need to just put it out there...I may never blog about the issue so hey ho!!!)

Happy April,its my favourite month of the year!I'm a spring/easter baby!

Our priority

Its funny how I find that as a people, we Nigerians don't prioritize and have no real sense of urgency. I feel like we have a long-winded way of reaching an end because we fail to plot logically. For example, a woman who does not have a job will borrow money to look pretty but not eat to attract a man, who will take interest in her, introduce her to people so she can finally find that man that will provide her sustenance. Long-winded, I know, it does not make sense to me either what I just wrote! What am saying is that, we live above our means in order to find our means. Another example, it is more urgent to distribute flyers on swine-flu than to tackle the increasing rate of AIDS and Meningitis or Polio in Nigeria. It is more urgent to bury Babangida's wife than to find out if the president will be alive. It is difficult to even have a decent sense of urgency if we have such warped sense of priorities.

So as a result, our government is exactly the same. It lives above its means, it does not even produce means because this has become more difficult as its feeding mouths above its capacity. We have free education, free health, but then we can't afford it because we don't really pay tax and if we do, some scmuck steals it because he needs to live above his means and show off in some sick way. *breathless*

We can now only pray or act, there is no need for verbal criticism of our country anymore. Look at it at the moment- people are dying in a state and our priority is that a Hausa man must remain in power. We need to move past our ethnicity and religious bias for politics to be sane and for the economy to progress. We need to decide what's more important. Personally, the well-being of the Nigerian people is more important to me than that of an Igbo, Hausa, Yoruba, Ijaw or Kanuri man. All I want in life is to be able to live in a safe country. And safe as in I can rest assure that no one will look at me and say, 'fucking christian off with her head', or 'bastard muslim let's kill her, she's not worth much'. I am worth something, I am human and so are the people in Jos and the Niger-Delta- killing us won't make us a happier or more progressive nation.

Our lack of prioritizing and lack of a sense of urgency is killing us and we are watching it happen.

Revolt?REvolt??REVolt???REVO????REVOL?????REVOLT??????

Irrespective of my status of residence,it is possible for me to see the positives and negatives of a country I grew up in...I am stuck in traffic, I live in darkness and I have had to queue for fuel, I have even been subjected to not going to school because of strikes, I think I qualify as one who suffers the insecure state of my country.

And so when you do all this talking, who is listening exactly, fellow 'clown masses or the clown government'. Anywhich way no ones hears,clearly they don't care and your revolution will be futile... In military rule, who talked and lived it through. And upon all the talk, we got Obasanjo and a bunch of other military men, how was that progressive?We lie everyday about how we are now democratic therefore we deserve better, we are not. We are an oligarchy and that's all...

All I want to know, is will YOU be the revolutionary, will YOU DIE for YOUR cause, because let's face it, its not the talkers that die, its the doers. Will YOU do that?and will YOU take the jugdement of killing these clowns. That's why I say its easy to talk the talk, its harder to walk the walk and Nigeria is not at the point where talking the talk matters, its about walking infact jumping and the truth is, we as a people, see violence and we RUN, we KILL it because we are afraid(sensibly enough).

Sorry I am not a supporter of revolutions because its not the talkers or the privileged who suffer,it will be the masses you're fighting for who will. I support evolutions,no blood, just time consuming but eventually will happen. Your talk ain't gonna do much for an evolution especially when no one is listening and you are attacking!

Sorry about the epistle, but I am genuinely pissed off when Nigerians just quote out of theories that don't hold any water for our country. We are not a normal country contrary to popular belief therefore 'international relations' norms do not necessarily apply well to us.

In the new year I will be patient!!

Ok so my first blog of the year and I am purging hence the title but OMG!!!


So everyone knows how Haiti is in trouble and they are fighting in Jos yet again and over Christmas we even exported our first terrorist (well i say that tongue in cheek!!)
anyway this friend of ours is convinced that there is a conspiracy theory about Jos and tbh its a pretty baseless theory, its not even a conspiracy!! so there is an intellectual discussion going on and you know we are trying to be progressive young ones and the following crops up as a means of argument

1. When MFM catches them...WTF WTfreakingF, MFM really...this was an intelligent response how?? It irks me that he tried to bring such into a political argument, what was his aim, what was hoping to achieve, like its completely beyond me...what the hell MFM is meant to do for an argument about a baseless conspiracy theory...

2. We are all one...and so, what does that do for the argument...asin what exactly is we are all one...we are all one so we shouldn't kill each other or we are all one as in in this argument...we are all one, soooooooooooooooooooooo??

Ok so basically, nothing is more irritating than trying to shy away from an argument because you are losing by making such loose meaningless points...we are all one..let MFM catch them...eew!!!*DEAD*

On a brighter note, HAPPY NEW YEAR everyone, may this year be filled with progress in all spheres of our lives especially when we speak!!!

peace,love, progress and NO TO BAD ARGUMENTS!!!

A result of civil war.

So this is going to be a major rant!!
This was a comment on someone's post...

Nigeria imports more generators than any other country in the world. The fumes kill 100's of thousands of people every year. This is because the Hausa/Fulani backwards government who have been controlling this god forsaken country since 1967 steal all our money and all the good people of the Niger deltas oil (the ijaw, the ogoni etc) while totally destroying their land and livelihood. Despite the oil boom of the 70's Nigeria has steadily been going down hill. Nothing can save this stupid country unless you send all the northerners back to the sahara dessert with their cattle, and send them obasanjo and other area boys that want to steal nigeria and africas resources and destroy the great black race. We don't need that shit. In the 21st century we have an apartheid system where the hausa/Fulani minority rule the Negro majority of the south. Think about it. I want nothing to do with your stupid country. No electricity, no running water. In the 50's (urban areas) this was unheard of. That was when decent morally conscious folk ran shit. Before the illiterate thick odious lot came to power. We need to stop them. Enough is enough. Time is running out. And this is before even looking at the climate change issue, I was talking to ken saro-wiwa jnr last night, he advises the gov on climate change and foreign affairs and he says particularly in Naija climate change is potentially the biggest threat we have ever faced in this part of the world. And you think someone like yar'adua would understand or even care about something like that? Effed.

This was the reply to the post

The Hausa/Fulani actually make up 29% of the population of Nigeria followed by the Yoruba at 28%(CIA Factbook) therefore they are not a minority. Actually we have had non-Hausa military leaders. The leaders of the Niger Delta have sold them (the people) to the rest of Nigeria,for example, Alamieyeseigha and James Ibori(he had a private jet might we add!need we say more). There is more to the North than cattle, agriculture is a big part of their society as well- cotton, soy beans are two examples of the products in high demand in the world and which are produced by the North (national encyclopaedia). This 'uselessness' of the North adds 32% to Nigeria's GDP. Africa's resources...that's a bit far-fetched. Nigeria being the second largest African economy does not need 'African resources' to survive. Nigeria in the 50s was under colonial rule,how was that a good thing, 'forced mis-modernisation'. Climate change is the least of our problems, Aids, Tuberculosis, Malaria, Female genital mutilation,Polio...those are our issues. Ken- Saro Wiwa Jnr clearly is just interested in climate change. To conclude, before you make these types of arguments, have your facts right and don't make general points about a group of people. We could say that we wanted all Igbo people to stay in the east and just do 419 but because it is an uninformed statement, it won't be posted on the world wide web. Lastly, you don't want to have anything to do with 'our country', then why bother to write such an uninformed epiphany on facebook...

This was the reply to the reply.

Sorry who are you? The CIA is a terrorist organisation. Like most 'official' data in Nigeria, the figures have been manipulated and falsified for political gain. It is a well known fact that the census carried out in 63 was rigged to give the north a majority of the seats in the house of reps and to allocate a larger proportion of the national wealth to developing that region. Balewa and Bello fucked those figures in the most criminal way. Let us not forget the north did nothing in the fight for independance and even objected more than once to the abolition of colonialism in Nigeria. They were happy being ruled by the British like good little servants. It was nnamdi azikiwe who had to literally beg them to accept independance and this meant much compromise on his part. How can population figures in one region go up/down by 10 million in one year? You are so blind if you think they have done anything for Nigeria other than destroy it and support the genocide of three million innocent Igbo men, women and children. The Igbo have always been the most industrius, hardworking, rightous, morally guided people south of the sahara. Go and study some proper African history before coming and insulting the most oppressed people of so called Nigeria. You insinuate that the igbo are the main offendors of so called 419, well I tell you when it becomes a question of survival I can't blame them. The igbo have never been a poor people and under 'one nigeria' they have been relegated to second class citizens which is not in our makeup. The igbos are the backbone of Nigeria don't you ever forget that. They built this stupid country which wants to repay them by wiping out half their people, enslaving the other half and yes governers like Ibori in delta and many other eastern region governers are a bunch of shortsighted, greedy twats as well I know. They are just as bad if not worse than the obadanjos, gowons, yar'aduas etc. Nigeria was a colonial experiment that frankly was never going to suceed because where there is injustice there can be no peace. Nigeria was built on injustice where European governments and oil multinationals backed a docile northern government to suck out and sell out all there supposed brothers ancestral wealth while taking a small cut and shutting up. Happens all over Africa. Wake the fuck up. Why else do you think Britain backed the federal government war against Biafra. It was to secure their oil and other mineral resource interests in that region, and no eastern government would ever give away their birthright to the west. We are just to proud and moral a people to sell out our African brothers and sisters. CIA factbook. You are brainwashed beyond belief. The proportional population figures still mostly used are the 1963 census. And if you don't see a pattern here with 30 thousand Igbo people (human beings) being slaughtered like animals by illiterate northerners simply because they were threatened by their industry then fleeing to the east where the Nigerian army then came to kill and rape them, if this is not systematic genocide then nothing is. My grandfather was a very prominent Lagos based doctor pre civil war. Indeed my father was a young boy when the war broke out. You have no idea what it was like for innocent Igbo people. They did nothing wrong and my family had to flee to our home in Enugu then when Enugu came under attack we had to abandon our home. After the war the audacity of the goverment beggars belief... They offered each Igbo man 25 pounds to restart his life and feed a whole family. All our property in Lagos till this day has not been returned bar one house. You have no idea what you're talking about and you sound so thick supporting such an immoral government and unjust system. Read the real facts, not the lies and cover ups that history has told. Nigerian history is disgusting and the country is entering the apocalypse, finally. Stop supporting injustice and the destruction of our continent. Africa is bigger than your stupid Nigeria.

There is nothing I hate more than uninformed statements and talks of division. I may not be Igbo and so I may not fully understand what it felt like to be Igbo in the Biafran war but I do know one thing, my mother is Itsekiri and would rather die than be referred to as Igbo. I hate the way, the Igbos always come out as the victims of this war when in fact the real victims were people who had no business being dragged into it, the Niger-Delta. The people of the Delta are not IGBO. If anyone is to talk about moving out of Nigeria, it is they. A number of the people killed in that war were not just Igbo, they were from the Niger-delta. The post and reply are so typical of the victimised Biafran family, like slavery, the Igbos need to move past it so they can develop as a people. Igbo militants raped their women. It irks me that these issues are never addressed- the Biafra is always glorified as an act of martyrdom by a group of people. Maybe so but they should not have followed so blindly in the first place- their leaders used them as pawns in a stupid power tussle. You can't have so much anger and hate and progress...its psychologically impossible.
Ok so it was bad for us to be amalgamated because of the large ethnic divisions but guess what, its been done and we have to learn to live together. Nearly 40 years after the end of the war and we are still arguing about it being a genocide or not (the war was not a systemic killing might I add, they were both fighting) or whether we should secede or not.
God forbid a secession or a war in our country. I am a product like many other Nigerians of inter-ethnic and inter-racial marriage. My mother is of Itsekiri-Sierra-leonean-Benin Republic descent and my father Fulani-Yoruba. My dad's sister is married to a very Catholic Igbo Anambra family- their son has an arabic name- so tell me where are we seceding to? if we can inter-marry, we sure as hell can live together. Ethnic divisions are present throughout the world but people have dealt with it-look at the Irish, Scottish and English- a tension filled relationship that will not end in a war or secession because they have learnt to work with the system in place. Africans like to stay victims which is why they will not progress.

Peace, love and live in peace!