Case of the EX

Err I like that song!!hence the title!! So as I was perusing blogsville today(instead of typing SFP presentation!), I read sugarking's post, and it is the inspiration for today's blog!!

I think exes are useful, well the ones that are! There are some exes that add no value to your life or even theirs hence they are delete button worthy!! I disagree that you cannot move on while an ex is still in your life, move on to where, like in a new relationship??Its difficult not impossible!
So I am now going to write 4 reasons why your ex should not be deleted permanently and I hope I will be able to convince you and not confuse you(err yeah I miss primary school debates...good morning my panel of judges, accurate timekeeper(hahahaha)...Ok I digress!)

1. Your ex is part of your network...I left this comment on the post! In life there will come a time when you will need to know someone who does something and yes you can make new friends etc but how much easier would it be if it were an ex that you kept in touch with!I realise that if it was a bad break-up, then this won't work(pls take that with a pinch of salt because old grudges can and do die!) but assuming it wasn't, it won't kill you to say the occasional happy birthday, merry xmas and the once a year OMG I haven't heard from you in ages conversation! Old feelings don't have to come back just because there is a little attention being given!

2. You may want to get back together and this isn't such a bad thing. If you feel that a break-up was necessary to help you realise that you should be together, the delete button can kill the hope! and we wouldn't want that would we!! Also the best romance for me is the problematic and drama-filled one!!!The happy times are always so happy and genuine *dreamy eyes*!!

3. Sex with the ex can be a good thing! If you're single and a girl, sex with your ex makes you feel less 'hoeish' because you've done him before so nothing new! For the boy, it means you don't have to convince her that its not just sex and you really like her! There is always a kind of understanding that lacks the complication that comes with sleeping with a new person. *shrugs shoulders* I may be wrong!! If you're not single however, err you shouldn't sex with an ex unless one partner is a virgin (personally, I believe it is unfair to make a boy/girl who is sexually active inactive because they are dating you who is a virgin!- *shrugs shoulders*, my moral compass is lacking!)

4. Keep an ex especially if the person can be objective...so yes, the job of a consultant is useful! Sometimes we're so wrapped up in the new relationship, we cannot look at things objectively...and an ex is who points it out because he/she can! Your friends(current ones) may not be able to do so for fear of offending you or bursting your bubble of euphoria but an objective ex just says it and sometimes we need that!

Ok so these are the only reasons I could come up with and they have been inspired by various situations around me and my closest friends.

Peace, love and your ex can be your friend!