Missing MMNC already

Of to the motherland today and I may not be able to blog as often, I'll try though...I am leaving a list of things to do while I'm away and not blogging about nonsense!

1. Watch Aye o lo mo kan

2. Watch Risikat, its funny as hell!

3. Read Half of a yellow sun and purple hibiscus if you have not already done so-a review of the thing around your neck coming soon!

4. Listen to music from 10 years ago!

5. Buy a new pair of shoes

6. Learn a foreign language

7. Watch X-men if you haven't seen it!

8. Learn to bake

9. Fall in love(Oplala- if you did not go to school in Naij, it means the point is non-existent!)

10. Involve yourself in some volunteer work! especially volunteering with children, it is gratifying!

For want of something to do right now, I have written this blog!!!!I'm going to miss this though. I know I sound like there is no civilisation in Nigeria but the internet in our house is slower than a snail and I don't have the patience for it...

I can make custard and tea!

Aye o lo mo kan! I love Funke Akindele!!!she is legendary!
ok so the film was about a spoilt brat who could not look after her husband...and this was the problem. I like the way the man did not leave her though,however the story line kinda annoyed me...for various reasons.
1. Why did the girl have to be a spoilt brat who grew up in england
2. Why did growing up in england mean that she could not cook(might I add that, I have never had a meat pie in england!)
3. Why was it such an issue that she could not cook
4. Why did they OTT the whole pant issue
5. Why was the untidy room a big deal?

You could have a girl who actually was not spoilt i.e. her parents disciplined her and taught her manners but she just never conformed...my sisters and burramint (till she realised cooking is therapeutic) could not boil water! I wasn't cooking till I was in SS2 and that caused me to be an outcast...but my mum did teach me, like I knew that I should cook but I didn't.

I know alot of people who grew up in England and are better behaved than some who grew up in Nigeria. In the end, its not where you grow up, its how! Your home is the greatest determinant for how you will turn out, not the area, or country!

My aunty does not like cooking and she is married with kids, she can cook, but she does not so what's the difference, can't cook, won't cook, all na the same!!However does this make her a 'bad wife', 'mother' or 'woman' because she will not be a norm?? My mummy cannot ro (make) amala and she cannot cook jollof rice, basic to some, rocket science to her.*actually she learnt how to make amala for 2, a month ago!jollof rice is still a challenge

I have not handwashed my underwear in 2 years, sue me, so!why is that a determinant of her usefulness at home???and my room is constantly untidy but that has nothing with being 'ke(d) baje or ju', I hate tidying!

The good thing is that the man did not audi the babe which would have been typical for the naija husband!*the whole impregnating the househelp was so the norm!!!! but to be fair there was no need to go on asif the girl would not survive at all if she couldn't do those things!!I love love love the film though and I recommend it to anyone who misses and loves jenifa!

Tomorrow must wait

I should do a follow up on the role of women but I have been interested by something else!

At my Diva's graduation, her mum in her speech commented that she was proud that she didn't disgrace her...this is true! She told a story about a girl who had been sent to school in the Amerix and rather than go to school, paid for her boyfriend to go to school!WOW!! talk about self-sacrifice. Today I watched a nigerian movie(the joys of post-exam lounging) called Tomorrow must wait which was the exact same storyline except it was set in a 'prestigious university' in Nigeria!! My initial reaction was 'what a stupid girl!'...I have since wondered, was I right to think that about her. Obviously there are pros and cons. She has wasted four years of her life, her parents money, shame and disgeace on the family, little prospects for tomorrow seeing as she has no degree (debateable) and as for the boyfriend, he may never talk to her again although he is indebted to her for her self-sacrifice!
However I am confused still as to whether I think the girl was a fool or not...like it was an amazing measure of sacrifice and can be said to be love not even for her boyfriend but for another human being...but was she stupid to make this sacrifice and will she reap valuable reward...was it worth it?

So random blog!

What would you do?City-High

My friend Juicegal responded to a post on a sugarbelly's blog about race! I am going to narrow it to Race and women!
The complaint is that Dare used an Indian girl in his video..I will be honest, my reaction was the same as sugarbelly's...Not because I am convinced that I am underpriviledged as a result of my skin colour...but because Dare made a comment a few years ago which really annoyed me. It was a performance in Lagos and he said 'this is my problem with nigeria, the sound check is always bad'.petty I know but he was saying that because he had just come back from that music show in SA...So after he said that, what was his contribution to making the sound check better...he was singing badly, he was huffing and puffing when he should have accepted that he was feeling abit nervous about performing!!!!! I feel that this is the same with the indian girl...so what there was no nigerian girl with the bod of that babe and they couldn't do indian virgin weave for her to make her hair look like that??Fair enough he is married to a nigerian girl but marriages are not always sufficient evidence to judge by(no offence meant) and so maybe sugarbelly is right to say that he is more at ease with other races or generally people that are not nigerian jare!!!

Second point, juicegal made about using black girls in american videos...I detest it to be honest...American rap, pop videos objectify women a little too much for my liking! If she is not half-naked, she is in compromising situations, like I really hate their portrayal of women, only useful as mothers or sex objects...it's disgusting. Having said that though, the women also play a huge part and so should take about 65-70% blame, because they consent to being seen in that light...Yes they have to feed etc but really, is that always the best option? It may suffice today but then when 7 years down the line you're ashamed of your boobies shown around and pressed by Snoop Dogg whose wife will probably never leave him and whose boobies you have not seen, you'll wonder why you really did it...

Having said this though, I agree with juicegal, let us move past race and do something positive!

Women of the world unite!(ok got a little carried away with Marx during exams so pardon a sister!)

The Role of Women in Society

I have been thinking about 'women' and how they shape our society. Everyday we hear about our world being 'a man's world' and women have no rights, no life, nothing, we are slaves to men in our societies...laws created are patriachal and so automatically exclude women from particiapting in society. I have come to the conclusion that this is an extreme view because I feel women are a much to blame as men are for the 'patriachal' society. Using the Nigerian society, I would like to make a few generalizations about the African society and the World in general.

1. Men are born by women!

Obviously!! It seems a norm that women have close bonds to their kids as they are born which means that a mother's love for her child is something that child will always respect. In this sense therefore, women have a hold over their children in a way no one else really does(except you're the devil in the devil's advocate. Essentially a woman wields power over her son and influences alot of decisions he makes...


2. Women do not use the power effectively!

So they have this influence, but rather than steer the child in the right directions, they manipulate and hate their daughters in- law!! A woman who has the 'ear' of her son can influence him so positively pro-women that should he be in a position of law-making, he would defend women. Mary had the ear of her son which is why he turned water to wine...women should emulate her in the way she dealt with her child whether or not he was the son of God...The bible may not tell us that Jesus got a spanking at 5 for peeing on the bed but I would like to assume that his mother would have done that to him. Evidently, the fact that he turned the water to wine, she had set down a few rules before about 'disobeying mummy'!

I have more to say but I have to go now because of thursday but come thursday 7pm(maybe not) I will add to this!

Life without weaves!

I had promised that there would be no blogging till thursday but na lie...
here are a few reasons why we should thank the almighty, technology, indian tradition and money for the creation of the new phenomenon...HUMAN HAIR...remy to be precise!

1. People with short hair can now have cause to glorify the almighty...Imagine if your hair lost the ability to grow because you went to school in Badore, Loyola, Louisville, Adesoye...sha you get all those schools where you had to have 'low cut'...

2. People with bad hair can cover it up...you know like the ones with 'chop chop' in front and at the back...kai we thank God...or the ones where the front is long and the back is non-existent...or thin,discoloured hair...wow!

3. People with long hair who do not have the liver to cut it can feel among with Ri-ri and Vicky. B! *guilty as charged*

4. *****The P and Swagger can be heavy on you...ok this sentence made no sense, I just wanted to say it...basically remy hair now separates your weave(technically) from Mercy's own because yours is 30,000 naira or £80 and hers was 12pounds...*personally, a weave is a weave to me, I always know!!!

So people, let us kneel down everyday and give glory to God for this creation...btw if anyone has seen 'DJM's' rant about weaves, I agree with him but that's blog for later...till then *peace*beating my chest*two fingers sideways*

Talent, Work...the New Nigerian

Just had my second exam and I must say people keep the prayers coming, I need them!!
Anyway so I just saw a video by some boys rapping about air and hair and music...hmm...kicks and starts or something...I am a big HATER of the talented rapper, designer, photographer, make-up artist...the artist in general...and I have never really known why...at first it was jealousy as I have no artistic talent, cannot sing, cannot rhyme, cannot draw a straight line, have no fashion sense...nana...in a way I am jealous as in I wish I had the ability to do some of these things...anywhichway I do have the ability to speak and write(ok somewhat!) so I should not over-hate!!
back to my point...I have realised that the dignity of education has diminished over the past 3-4 generations...
In the colonial era and the early post-colonial era, there was dignity in becoming a doctor, a lawyer, an engineer, an accountant...generally to obtain either professional degrees or specialise in a subject and reach the highest point...Intellectualism was key...My great-grand parents and grand-parents belong to this era...As a result, our political, intellectual families were born...the lawyers, doctors etc...This was mostly because they had suffered the insensitivity of racism where they were relegated to slavery...A thirst to be like their masters drove their ambition to become intellectual...they had to stand up to their masters...However abberations occurred...Fela...he was a musical intellectual...in this sense I would argue that he was like the other intellectuals as he was put on the same pedestal as western musical intellectuals...
These people gave birth to my parents and their friends...however the drive to become intellectuals had diminished...the drive was material success...this they have achieved... Our parents lived off the glory of their parents...i.e. their dignity was ascribed to them partly because of whose child they were...this is not to say that they have not worked hard or that some of them have not succeeded without the help of an intellectual parent...however they have not been the saviours of our country, they work through the system and maintain the status quo...no revolutionary spirit like their fathers and mothers...
Then there is the new generation...the tomorrow of Nigeria...we have abandoned intellectualism further...our drive is not revolutionary...our drive is material success...no dignity in suffering...infact suffering...wth is that???I am guilty of this as well...I chose not to do a professional degree but in my defence...I LOVE what I do and those who know me will testify that I breath the humanities...I want to be an intellectual like my grand-parents but I don't know if I want to be that uncomfortable...
So what is my point...that this new boom of musicians, designers, rappers, make-up artists etc are a result of the desire to move away or rebel from intellectualism and find another way to succeed apart from school rather than a desire to change the status quo...in my revolutionary spirit I say...'children of the arts unite' but the truth is I cannot see the intellectualism in what we do...we are singing about girls bums, popping bottles, i'm hotter than fire...and the cliche corruption in Nigeria...it's a hard life wey we dey live o...but what are we going to do to change it...We are inspired by Hollywood to be 'artistes'...there is money to be made but let us not forget that Hollywood was created at a time when America had created wealth for its people and so this next step was acceptable!! Nigeria has not created wealth and our 'artistes' should be like Russia's Zamiatin, Gorky, Pasternak,Eisenstein...revolutionary...angry for change...why are we singing about hair and nonsense as if that's our problem in life!